Future Fear ~ Don’t Let it Paralyze You
Every day of our lives we are all faced with decisions that need to be made. Some decisions will seem small and somewhat insignificant like what we’re going to eat for dinner or what clothes we are to wear, yet they still have consequences. If you consistently decide to eat too much of the wrong type of food for example then you’ll start to gain weight and your health could be affected.
At times though we can be faced with much bigger decisions like whether to apply for or take a certain job, whether to buy a house, whether to have children or even whether to move to another part of the world. These decisions are quite clearly going to have a huge impact on your life and in some cases it’s impossible to change your mind once you’ve made them.When faced with decisions as big as these many people get hit with ‘Future Fear’, a fear of choosing the wrong future.
Future fear can be so daunting that it often renders its subjects paralyzed and rather than facing up to the big choices we all have to make in life, future fear can prevent us from making a decision at all. I came across the term future fear in a film I watched when I was a lad and it’s stayed with me because as a person I tend to weigh up every big decision a million times before making it. Although thinking hard about big decisions is a wise thing to do, there’s also an inherent danger for over analyzers like me.
As an over analyzer I tend to look at every possible negative outcome that might occur when taking a certain course of action. The problem with this personality trait is that almost every decision we make in life has a potential negative outcome. If you choose to get married for example there’s a chance that you could end up divorced, if you choose to start your own business there might be times when you have little or no work, if you choose to buy a house then there’s a possibility you could buy the wrong house, every decision has a possible negative outcome. The big question is whether you’ll let these potential negative outcomes correctly influence your decision or whether you’ll let them paralyze you with fear?
Life is a Journey
I can’t help but feel a bit cheesy when I write subtitles like that but it’s true, life is a journey and being on a journey implies that you’re going somewhere or doing something. I mentioned earlier that I first heard the term ‘Future Fear’ when I was younger. I was actually about 17 when I watched the film in question and I was just starting out in adult life. At 17 it seemed as though I had all the time in the world, now that I’m 28 I’m starting to realise that’s not necessarily the case and I’m sure I’ll get slaughtered in the comments by some of my slightly older readers for suggesting that 28 is anywhere near old. In just over 10 years though I’ve realised that life can pass you by pretty quickly and if you’re afraid to make a decision or are too slow to adjust, then the effects of indecision won’t take long to catch up with you.
Already at just 28 there are things I wish I’d done in life and also things I wish I hadn’t done. The good thing about the things I wish I hadn’t done, my mistakes, is that at least I’ve learned something from them. As for the things I wish I’d done, well they are now just missed opportunities. How often have you said to yourself ‘I’ll never do that again’! Your right, you probably won’t and at least you know that now. By making a decision (even if it’s a wrong one) at least you’ve gained some life experience, something to pass on to others.
Indecision is the Worst Decision
I certainly don’t think people should rush into making important decisions, not making a decision at all however can be just as bad. When faced with an important decison rest assured that if you don’t make the decision, someone or something else will and you will then have no control over the outcome. You won’t make the correct decision every time, that’s impossible but at least by making a decision, you can have some influence over the outcome of that decision and protect your interests.
What big decisions have you made/not made?